First of all, excellent article… I’ve fell in love with a beautiful Japanese girl (I’m not an Asianphile) and she’d hold my hand in public, we were in love. But her parents didn’t approve and so our relationship was killed by the rules of her family’s culture, never mind she’s born in the USA and has no accent. She was in a dilemma, wanting to love who she wants but not to dis-respect or dishonor her parents. We had respect for each other sexually. Funny thou, she is the strong “boss lady” type that many guys are scared of, yet she loved being controlled by me, fighting playfully in bed. We raped each other half of the time with me losing more than a shirt here and there.

I feel sorry for her, and to any woman who isn’t allowed to be free. There isn’t much, if anything we can do as Japanese culture is very old and structured. But I think the women are getting more free and equal with each generation.

@ Asperger :
you seem to communicate very well. If your Asperger syndrome is not noticeable, then don’t talk about it. Not saying be ashamed or anything like that. If a girl is going to talk to you about their crap, then you have the ability to have a GF. Here is the trick. STOP THAT. Ask for dates, etc… but if that FRIEND ZONE comes up, you say “hold it dear, I’m a man looking for a woman. If you have guy issues please share them with your girlfriend. If we’re not going to make out or date, then lets not waste each others time and walk you out my door” (or if you’re at her house – leave). Either you’re not wasting your time or she’ll see you have “balls” and ask to stay. I’ve done that crap, listening to guy problems about jerks. Guess what, all our dads are jerks – we hear it from our moms all the time.

Good luck with the ladies, go out more, learn skills like dancing, sports, some sort of interaction with other people who are doing things, that you may like. As I’ve told other shy or inexperienced guys – YOU have to get out there, get some dates under your belt. Why? If your life experiences are limited, what do you have to talk about with a girl? You have to have stories, experiences.

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While this blog is about Japanese rape fantasies… most women want to be controlled. Not the same as abuse, and some women don’t know the difference. Girls like their hair pulled back with control and then kissed passionately. I used to by a shy boy, going years without sex. I’m dating a girl, who I walked up to at a club and asked her to dance. We never left the dance floor and within an hour we were French kissing, I held her body to mine in a room with about 100+ people, lights and loud music. I didn’t even know her name yet. In the past 18 months, I’ve dated or had sex with about 35+ women. I really like this latest girl compared to anything recently.

@ HtoK:
“All I know is that rape is an act of hatred, not love,” – Rape is about hate. At least most of the time. When you see a Japanese video or anime of a girl being molested/saved on a train and she doesn’t do anything, it can be somewhat questionable. But the girls/women are brought up to be “victims” in a sense. Check out videos of women doing public nudity or sex in Japan, over 90% of the people around will ignore it. But yes, I agree 100% that nonconsensual sex is hate and or emotional problems or sexual hang-ups. Think of a SOB who puts a date-rape drug in a girls drink, she’ll wake up and will most likely not remember much of it or that she agreed to do the sexual act. That guy did it because it’s the ONLY way he’s going to get his dick inside a woman without paying for it… not hate, but pathetic.

Rape fantasies or acts within a relationship is not “hate”, it means you’re doing it right. Its primal F-ing. That some of the best sex, biting, scratching, ripping clothes off each other is intense. Why do you think girls like to show off their hickies? I’ve been with a woman whose husband of 5 years was a jerk and his sex act was usually 5 mins. She had lovely nipples that liked to be pulled, twisted and chewed on (no marks or anything painful) and she loved it.

@ dirtdonthurtmomies
You should check out alt.sex.stories or their website asstr.org of stories, all free, there is stuff like that in there. And your fantasy should stay in your head, as such situations like that, the girl never comes home alive or worse. A friend on the internet, young girl of 18yrs of age a long ago told me of a fantasy of guy(s) coming into her home and raping her. She gave me her phone number and to some other guys including a nut. I explained to her HOW DANGEROUS it was to give out her info as was proven by the “nut” calling her and even thou nothing came of it – it wasn’t fun for her.
You fantasy is fine and there’s way to make it more realistic while not being dangerous… 3-5 years as a full time sex slave, is not a fun thing. Keep in mind, in the USA, hundreds or thousands of girls disappear each year from meeting someone online. And what those creeps do would go beyond anything you or I can think of or imagine doing.
A single rape can scar a woman for life at any age. Or with help and logic of not making it personal, it can be overcome a lot easier. IE: its not your fault as a victim.

You can do sex games in which you are boxed and bond safely with people in the BDSM scene, but depending on who you meet, it can be respectful, safe and fun or very dangerous. Have your boyfriend buy $8 handcuffs from some condom shop or online, wrist-straps and such. With someone you trust.

But the point is: how can a normal girl really think it’s Okay to have someone you absolutely don’t know stick his hand in her underwear and just stay there, like a shaking bunny… and even thinK “oooh this feels good!”

So whenever someone answer that… it’s okay I always say the same thing: Girl, I wish you find a guy just like him… but when you do, don’t call the police. They’ll find manga in your house and would never believe you if you ever go to trial!

Obviously! tsk tsk!

Of course I’ve had the kind of fantasies you talked about above, it just wasn’t always the case. But now I see why they occurred, and I realize the true brutal horrors of real rape. Thank you for educating me on something so much more important to life than math, when no one I could ever have asked would’ve been able to answer.